Love Requires Sacrifice Sometimes???

Maybe I am being a fool. Maybe I am too idealistic or have too romantic of  a view of the world and love.

Before I say anything else, let me say that I love my girlfriend. And without her help after my fall, I may not have survived, and I appreciate that.

However, I can feel the relationship between me and my girlfriend slipping away. We have been together for about about a year and 9 months. Am I being too demanding to think that she should at least look for jobs around here or come for a visit? I completely understand that she has to look out for her career and what is good for her, but part of loving a person, in my mind, is being there when they need you.  When I fell and was hospitalized in China, my parents flew over there (and they are not the world traveling type).  I needed them so they were there.  That is what you do when you love someone. Right? Recovering from a brain injury is the hardest thing that I have ever gone through. My girlfriend should at least show a desire to come here. Maybe things wouldn't work out, and the result would be the same--her living and working in France--but it would mean so much to know that she tried to be with me when I need her now. She said that we should just live our separate lives until I am better again; then we can get back together. Sometimes, life gets hard--we have to help each other through those time. That is what community, family, and love are about. Do we just have different ideas about what love is? Or does she not love me as much as I love her? If the show were on the other foot--if she were injured--I know I would be there with her, for her. Ah, c'est la vie, I guess.